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A matter of life and death

From the minute we are born, one thing we can be certain of is that one day we will die. Accepting our own mortality, or that of a loved one, is never easy, yet it is inevitable.

So why is the subject so taboo, something we are not comfortable talking about?

Being given a terminal illness diagnosis, is unquestionably awful but for many it is the realisation that they need to start living.

Previously they would say things like:

“I’ll do it tomorrow”

“I’ll visit when I have time.”

“We could do that next year.”

“One day we will ……”

Suddenly tomorrow becomes a blessing and who knows if there will be next year.

Whilst you have life, live it, enjoy it, spend time with those you love and fulfil your dreams. But also give thought to how you would like the end of your own life to look.

You plan your holiday, career moves, a day out, children’s education, house move.

So why not plan your funeral?

The funeral industry is changing. Like everything else it needs to move with the times. Now there is choice.

If you don’t leave funeral wishes, when the day comes, how will your loved ones know what YOU want. This is something we should talk about, no matter how hard it is, because it makes things easier for your loved ones when the time comes, knowing they are fulfilling YOUR wishes.

It could be done simply by a conversation but better still write it down.

Or use an online portal to voice record your wishes.

Did you know you don’t have to have your funeral ceremony in a Church or Crematorium, you can have a ‘Celebration of Life Ceremony’ somewhere that has meaning to you and without time restraints. It can be before or after your burial or cremation. It can be in a format of your choosing. This is not because a church service or crematorium service are wrong but because they aren’t right for everyone. Church and crematoria are both invaluable places and offer a safe sanctuary of dignity and respect to say farewell to a loved one but for some people the time restraints are an issue, they don’t fit with tradition or they don’t reflect YOUR personality. A funeral service, a farewell ceremony, a celebration of life or a life memorial, should reflect the person it is for.

What would you like your end-of-life celebration or farewell to look like?

By Independent Celebrant Karen Davis

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